Quickly answer these questions about your spouse! What is their favorite color? What is their favorite restaurant? Which of their friends will they call when they need to vent? If they had an entire day to themself what would they do? What clothes did they wear yesterday? Just how well do you know your spouse? In full transparency, I have known my wife more than half of my life and in August we will mark our 35th anniversary. But if I'm being honest, there are still things th

I was recently leading a marriage workshop when I asked the room, "How many of you have a prenup?" A little nervous laughter filled the space. After a pause, one couple slowly raised their hand. So I asked again—same question, same reaction. Then I clarified. "How many of you stood before God and witnesses and made promises to each other about how you would love, support, and show up in your marriage?" Now I asked a final time "how many of you have a prenuptial agreement?" Li

It was the 2016 Democratic National Convention and President Barack Obama used a phrase that quickly caught the attention of the crowd. When people began booing the name of the Republican candidate, he stopped them with a simple challenge: "Don't boo… vote." In other words, don't just react—do something about it. That idea actually applies directly to marriage. Because, real talk, every married couple has moments when frustration rises. There are habits, attitudes, and behavi

What does love really look like? Can you put it into words? Every February, we celebrate what many call the month of love. People spend billions of dollars on flowers, chocolates, and gifts to show their affection, especially on Valentine's Day. But beyond the cards and presents, what is love at its core? The apostle Paul gives us a powerful description in the book of Romans: "Let love be genuine; hate what is evil; hold fast to what is good; love one another with mutual affe

I have dubbed 2026 as the Milestone Year. No, I'm not talking about the USA celebrating 250 years, it's a personal family thing. Get a load of this list: Our son and daughter-in-love celebrate their 5 year anniversary, my 50th high school reunion; both my sister and sister-in-love turn 60; my father-in-love turns 90; my wife Joy celebrates a special milestone birthday and Praise God April 10th she will also be 20 years cancer free and she and I will celebrate our 35th annive