In 2007, Tyler Perry released the hit movie Why Did I Get Married? The film resonated with audiences because it honestly portrayed the highs, lows, disappointments, and complexities that so many couples experience. For some of the characters (and most likely many movie goers) it raised an uncomfortable question: With everything that's happened, was getting married really worth it? "Why Did I Get Married?" That's certainly one way to ask the question. But what if we asked it d

Quickly answer these questions about your spouse! What is their favorite color? What is their favorite restaurant? Which of their friends will they call when they need to vent? If they had an entire day to themself what would they do? What clothes did they wear yesterday? Just how well do you know your spouse? In full transparency, I have known my wife more than half of my life and in August we will mark our 35th anniversary. But if I'm being honest, there are still things th

I was recently leading a marriage workshop when I asked the room, "How many of you have a prenup?" A little nervous laughter filled the space. After a pause, one couple slowly raised their hand. So I asked again—same question, same reaction. Then I clarified. "How many of you stood before God and witnesses and made promises to each other about how you would love, support, and show up in your marriage?" Now I asked a final time "how many of you have a prenuptial agreement?" Li

It was the 2016 Democratic National Convention and President Barack Obama used a phrase that quickly caught the attention of the crowd. When people began booing the name of the Republican candidate, he stopped them with a simple challenge: "Don't boo… vote." In other words, don't just react—do something about it. That idea actually applies directly to marriage. Because, real talk, every married couple has moments when frustration rises. There are habits, attitudes, and behavi