20 Words That Say Love

by Mike Watkins

Who says guys don’t care about the L Word?  We’re okay talking about love… we just don’t want to use a lot of words to talk about it.  So I did what all great writers, thinkers and thought leaders do… I turned to Facebook.  Conventional wisdom says just throw it out there and ask how people feel about love.  But let’s face it, a question like that means only women would respond.  Hey I’m a guy and I knew how to get guys to respond.  So I posed the question for husbands to give me “one word to describe love.”  See, you make it simple and guys will comply.    I was blown away with the response.  I pulled them together and here are the 20 words that say love the guys consistently served up. 

Top 20 Words That Say Love – A guy’s perspective

  1. Godliness
  2. A Decision
  3. Giving
  4. Unconditional
  5. Trust
  6. Eternal
  7. Strength
  8. Friends 1st!
  9. Unyielding
  10. Indescribable
  11. Sacrificial
  12. Unselfish
  13. Patient
  14. Forgiving
  15. Unchanging
  16. Abiding
  17. Passion
  18. Adoration
  19. Selfless


That’s a pretty strong list.  But as you reflect on these words you can make the case that how husbands love their wives is representative of how we love God.  The book “Sacred Marriage” by Gary Thomas poses the question “What if God designed marriage to make us Holy more than to make us happy?” That’s a powerful question and consciously or unconsciously at least these husbands through their one word descriptions of love demonstrate the correlation between loving God and loving our spouse.  While these guys provided some great words, we find that the Apostle Paul wrote a beautiful definition of love with multiple words herein 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  Love never ends.”

Speaking of love.  Here’s a wonderful way to celebrate your love or rekindle your fading love, it’s the Heart of Marriage Retreat: The Best Is Yet To Come.  Join us the weekend of September 15 – 17 at the Evergreen Marriott Conference Center in Stone Mountain Georgia.  It will be a weekend that stays with you forever.

By the way, by now you’ve noticed there were only 19 words on the list.  The 20th is my word that says love… Joy!